Melancholy Has Come to Knock

There's a melancholy seeping out of my bones. It seems a sort of thing awakened by being here in Korea. Don't misunderstand, our time here is wonderful and will make for lasting memories. However, just because the experience is beautiful and memorable doesn't distract from or minimize the contradictions that live here. Likely one of … Continue reading Melancholy Has Come to Knock

Facing What Comes Next

We finally finished our two-week quarantine yesterday morning! Yesterday marked our official start to our trip. Along with the excitement of finally being able to leave our hotel room after two weeks, I'm grappling with the great uncertainty that lies ahead. As is so often true in life, quarantine was just another opportunity for a … Continue reading Facing What Comes Next

My True Confessions

Recent violence against the Asian American/Pacific Islander communities has given me pause. I've grieved the loss, pain, and hurt of the communities directly impacted and felt the fear and pain myself for my birth family and my own family. Anti-Asian sentiment is certainly not a new phenomenon for me and I have been confronted by … Continue reading My True Confessions

Grief is a Tricky Thing

Content warning: suicide. I knew when I set out to write this post, it would be one of the more challenging ones. Grief. At the risk of sounding overly melodramatic, my life is punctuated by this word. In particular, my early childhood before going to live with my adoptive parents was marked by numerous losses, … Continue reading Grief is a Tricky Thing

Let’s Talk about Transracial Adoption

Code Switch: Our Homeland is Each Other (10/10/2018) Before reading, I invite those who are following and reading along on my journey to pause and listen to this whole episode. My words cannot do justice for what the interviewees do in this episode. Second, I am one person and I am not in this space … Continue reading Let’s Talk about Transracial Adoption

Adoption is an Adverse Experience

In the coming week I'll be presenting at a couple of conferences on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). As I've been preparing, it got me thinking a lot about adoption and ACEs. Here's my disclaimer...my work is currently in the health promotion field and has been in the field of therapy with a focus on trauma, … Continue reading Adoption is an Adverse Experience